Choices...
Thanks to Shoop, I have had the chance to attend a Basic course by Asia Works. And it got me thinking a lot. Although a handful of things I have already known or learned prior it from my various mentors, but I think what the course helped is to reflect. I do reflect or have quiet time for myself every once in awhile I haven't done so for a long time. And this few days, it allowed me to do so. And today, I guess what i would like to share is about "Choices".
Firstly, just to lay the ground about "Choices", there are 2 things we have really no choice. To be born (by your biological parents) to this world . And to die (in any ways). Between these two ends of life, everything is a choice. Even the way we die is a choice. Maybe you can tell me if you feel otherwise and quote me a case.
Imagine this, if James Bond were to drop himself into a chamber with the wall closing fast on you. There you see two holes. One states "filled with 5ft of poo poo" and the other states "filled with 10ft of poo poo". How many choices do we have here?
He'd have three. Jump into hole 1, jump into hole 2 or do nothing and get crushed to death.
So being a smart human being and a top notch spy, He'd make the best choice and choose to jump into one with 5ft of poo poo (Doesn't take a rocket scientist to decide that). So as he pounce into it..it fills up to his neck/chest (or somewhere there).
Next, he can choose to again the following ways to think/look at his current situation:
1. Whew...lucky shit. I made the best choice to be in 5ft of poo poo compared to 10ft. If not, I'd either staying afloat in 10ft of poo poo or be crushed to death. And take a deep breath of relief. Another great escape!
OR
2. Man.....this sucks, I've no choice but be here, in this stinky hole filled with poo poo. I could have been at the beach, enjoying the sun bathing and checking out some babes. This sucks. Why do I have to be in this situation? This is shitty man....
Try to relate for option 2. How many of us actually experience at times where we "have to" do something. In a negative way. Made it felt as if that we were forced by situation. Make ourselves feel like we are the victim and we need people to save us. And kept saying we had "no choice".
A lot of times we keep telling ourselves that we have no choice but the fact is that we do! And we make it day in and day out. We are human and we are very much capable to make the best choice out of the situation we are given. We are the largest single brain to body proportion animal!
Get this, relate to the story of James bond again for option 2. The choice of being at the beach was not an option to start with nor choice that was available at that point of time! So stop making yourself sorry for yourself or others feel sorry for you. Many people will often then put themselves in a victimized situation. Which in fact is not. It was a result of a choice!
If one wants to argue that "James Bond had no choice because he was trapped in such a place.". But the counter argument to that statement would be James Bond chose to be a spy and he would have already known that he would make life and death decision everyday. This situation where he was caught in was a result of his earlier choice. DUH~
So whenever you think you have "no choice", think again. The situation you are in is based on an earlier choice you have made. But perhaps you weren't aware of it anymore.
Another scenario, some people might beg to differ saying that they have no choice because his/her boss ask him/her to do certain things. But who chose the job to start with? And after that, who chose to stay on with the job even if it sucks? Some might say they need the money to live comfortably, so now who wants to live comfortably? Who chose that? Can he/she chose to live more frugally? Could he/she chose to save enough money just in case he/she wants to leave the job? All the choices are linked! Many people chose without thinking clearly. That is the main problem. If you have chosen what you have, you must think thoroughly what comes with it. It is your choice.
For those with kids and feel you are a "slave" to them (somehow), you'd say you had no choice. Is that true? Who chose to have the kids and bring them to this planet? How can one not expect to take care of their kid when they are born? Unless your baby will wake up in a middle of the night and check out to see if the parent's are awake and try to sneak out so the parents will not be woken up and check his/her own diaper or even make their own food? The fact is you chose to do so and you have to be responsible for it and NOT tell yourself that you have no choice!
Why do people say "No Choice". I am not sure. Either they perceive that they really had none (i hope they do after they read this blog) or they are trying to find a way out. Go to a state of denial. To get sympathy. For what? For attention I guess.
Whatever happens in life or the results that turns out are results of choices. There is no right or wrong choices in life. It is just a choice. When you do so, think clearly what you'd be taking on with that choice. Don't afterwhich regret.
I guess I have blabbered about "Choices". I hope readers do get the point that nothing is "no choice". Doing nothing is a choice as well. And stop trying to be a victim of the situation. Take control of it and be responsible for your choice.
Readers, do take some time to think about the choices you made in life. Think or reflect how it affected you. Think again how many times you said "I have to..." or "...no choice..." when you actually have. Just that you chose to do "A" to "B" for certain reason which only you will know.
That's all for now... I hope someone very very close to me would be able to read this and take some time to do some thinker as well. I hope this helps. In the next few days, I'll pen down as many things as possible I've learnt I n hope that she will learn from me too.
Firstly, just to lay the ground about "Choices", there are 2 things we have really no choice. To be born (by your biological parents) to this world . And to die (in any ways). Between these two ends of life, everything is a choice. Even the way we die is a choice. Maybe you can tell me if you feel otherwise and quote me a case.
Imagine this, if James Bond were to drop himself into a chamber with the wall closing fast on you. There you see two holes. One states "filled with 5ft of poo poo" and the other states "filled with 10ft of poo poo". How many choices do we have here?
He'd have three. Jump into hole 1, jump into hole 2 or do nothing and get crushed to death.
So being a smart human being and a top notch spy, He'd make the best choice and choose to jump into one with 5ft of poo poo (Doesn't take a rocket scientist to decide that). So as he pounce into it..it fills up to his neck/chest (or somewhere there).
Next, he can choose to again the following ways to think/look at his current situation:
1. Whew...lucky shit. I made the best choice to be in 5ft of poo poo compared to 10ft. If not, I'd either staying afloat in 10ft of poo poo or be crushed to death. And take a deep breath of relief. Another great escape!
OR
2. Man.....this sucks, I've no choice but be here, in this stinky hole filled with poo poo. I could have been at the beach, enjoying the sun bathing and checking out some babes. This sucks. Why do I have to be in this situation? This is shitty man....
Try to relate for option 2. How many of us actually experience at times where we "have to" do something. In a negative way. Made it felt as if that we were forced by situation. Make ourselves feel like we are the victim and we need people to save us. And kept saying we had "no choice".
A lot of times we keep telling ourselves that we have no choice but the fact is that we do! And we make it day in and day out. We are human and we are very much capable to make the best choice out of the situation we are given. We are the largest single brain to body proportion animal!
Get this, relate to the story of James bond again for option 2. The choice of being at the beach was not an option to start with nor choice that was available at that point of time! So stop making yourself sorry for yourself or others feel sorry for you. Many people will often then put themselves in a victimized situation. Which in fact is not. It was a result of a choice!
If one wants to argue that "James Bond had no choice because he was trapped in such a place.". But the counter argument to that statement would be James Bond chose to be a spy and he would have already known that he would make life and death decision everyday. This situation where he was caught in was a result of his earlier choice. DUH~
So whenever you think you have "no choice", think again. The situation you are in is based on an earlier choice you have made. But perhaps you weren't aware of it anymore.
Another scenario, some people might beg to differ saying that they have no choice because his/her boss ask him/her to do certain things. But who chose the job to start with? And after that, who chose to stay on with the job even if it sucks? Some might say they need the money to live comfortably, so now who wants to live comfortably? Who chose that? Can he/she chose to live more frugally? Could he/she chose to save enough money just in case he/she wants to leave the job? All the choices are linked! Many people chose without thinking clearly. That is the main problem. If you have chosen what you have, you must think thoroughly what comes with it. It is your choice.
For those with kids and feel you are a "slave" to them (somehow), you'd say you had no choice. Is that true? Who chose to have the kids and bring them to this planet? How can one not expect to take care of their kid when they are born? Unless your baby will wake up in a middle of the night and check out to see if the parent's are awake and try to sneak out so the parents will not be woken up and check his/her own diaper or even make their own food? The fact is you chose to do so and you have to be responsible for it and NOT tell yourself that you have no choice!
Why do people say "No Choice". I am not sure. Either they perceive that they really had none (i hope they do after they read this blog) or they are trying to find a way out. Go to a state of denial. To get sympathy. For what? For attention I guess.
Whatever happens in life or the results that turns out are results of choices. There is no right or wrong choices in life. It is just a choice. When you do so, think clearly what you'd be taking on with that choice. Don't afterwhich regret.
I guess I have blabbered about "Choices". I hope readers do get the point that nothing is "no choice". Doing nothing is a choice as well. And stop trying to be a victim of the situation. Take control of it and be responsible for your choice.
Readers, do take some time to think about the choices you made in life. Think or reflect how it affected you. Think again how many times you said "I have to..." or "...no choice..." when you actually have. Just that you chose to do "A" to "B" for certain reason which only you will know.
That's all for now... I hope someone very very close to me would be able to read this and take some time to do some thinker as well. I hope this helps. In the next few days, I'll pen down as many things as possible I've learnt I n hope that she will learn from me too.
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